Our Place

March #SOLC17 Day 24


“Hello, Gustavo my friend!  How are you?” she said as he took her hand.

“Wonderful!  So good to see you tonight!”

We could hear his bellowing laugh as we entered our place.  A laugh that comes deep from the belly that fills the entire room.  We changed tables a couple of times in the short 3 minutes since we arrived.  “We must sit in Gustavo’s section tonight!” we told the hostess.

“Are you drinking wine tonight?” he asked.

“Yes…..” and she pointed toward the wall of wines.

“I know, I know.  The V90 Syrah”, he said confidently.

“Yes, that’s it!”

“OK!  And for dinner?  Chicken?” he looked at her,  “and, the margarita pizza?” as he nodded in my direction.

In unison…..”You just know what we like, don’t you?!”

“And, I will keep bringing it as long you keep coming back!”

Another belly laugh erupts.

“Are you working Sunday?” we ask with anticipation.

“No, I spend Sundays with my mom.  She has Alzheimer’s and can’t be left alone”, he says in a serious tone we have not yet seen to this point.

In unison…”Oh, that’s so hard.  We’re so sorry.”

“Oh no, it’sOK!  It’s fun!  I love being with my mom!”

We give a weak smile and voice some words of encouragement,  shaking our heads as he walks away.  We have known this man for at least a year.  Our favorite waiter at one of our favorite restaurants.

But, what do we really know about him?

He presents himself to the world with such joy and happiness. We have no question that he is truly this cheerful person inside.  But also on the inside, he is struggling with such difficult issues.  He appreciates his mother.  Enjoys being with her.  Believes it is a gift to him to have her living with him.

We both acknowledged the stress and sadness that comes from living with an ailing parent.  Alzheimer’s especially.

This really gave us pause.

Be kind.  You never know what someone else is going through.



5 thoughts on “Our Place

  1. So true and be kind because that person may need it to get through the day. Funny how much energy it takes to get through your day when you are caring for someone.

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