March #SOLC Day 24
How does a daughter broach this topic with her mother?
It’s so unnatural.
The younger one, the offspring, isn’t supposed to have this “difficult” talk with her mother.
Aren’t mom’s suppose to initiate these things?
The tables are turned.
The roles are reversed.
The responsibility has shifted.
It took about 5 years for this change to completely take effect.
How do I bring it up?
Won’t it just dredge up bad feelings – scary thoughts?
If I’m patient I know I’ll find the right moment to bring it up. I have to be OK with waiting and not doing it on my time, but rather on hers.
And, finally I could see that she was ready.
“Mom, we should probably talk about me getting Power of Attorney for you. Do you know what that is?” I asked…holding my breath.
“Yes. You mean so you can sign all papers for me?” she replied.
“Yes and also if you get sick. You can make sure it’s all written down so I can make sure everything happens exactly the way you want it.”, I said….starting to breathe out. This is going way better than I thought it would.
“In fact”, I added (on a roll now) “everyone should have something like that, including me!”
“OK”, she said (looking pretty OK with it all) “but how will we do it?”
Now I can fully breathe again. “We can talk to your doctor when we go see her over my spring break. That’s when we can do it.”
“What are you having for lunch today?” I asked.
Conversation over…..for now.